Forgiveness forms an inherent part of human nature and therefore it dignifies us as one of our excellent virtues.
Contrary to what many think, forgiveness is not a synonym of forgetting, rather it is to accept the bad that has been done to us, to accept that we are imperfect beings and therefore others like us are entitled to make mistakes.
To forgive is to recognize that life is made of opportunities, to forgive is humility to realize that everyone is entitled to it, and that we are not anybody to neglect forgiveness.
Forgiveness embodies its foundations in our very essence; essence that we only taste when we put aside the prejudices of the world and we rediscover ourselves and make corrections starting from our actions with ourselves and with others.
Forgiveness is more of a virtue rather than a capacity (which, by the way, we have very little) that life gives us, our experiences, but above all love. The pure and true love.
When we are not sufficiently able to put aside our pride and start again, we generally experience a sense of frustration at the expense of whom harbor negative feelings such as bitterness, thirst for revenge, among many others, that far justifying our incapacity (exactly what we expected). It fill us with anger, powerlessness, but especially bitterness, as we sadly realize that we do not possess the tools necessary to discover and exploit our potential as a purely emotional
Thursday, November 20, 2008
Sunday, November 16, 2008
IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP YOU NEED TRUST
Trust is something that is important to every single relationship you have. No matter if it is a relationship of friends, family, or even a relationship of lovers; trust must be there to make it successful. So, if you are noticing a lack of trust within your relationship, how can you get trust back into your relationship? How can trust be incorporated into your life, daily? How can you trust if you’ve been hurt in relationships before?
It is hard to add trust into a relationship that is already damaged. But, it is necessary in the most immediate way. Relationships are built on qualities like trust. If the trust in your relationship is week, chances are good that the relationship will suffer in the long run. If you are constantly questioning or worry about your relationship, then you have no trust in your partner. If you trust in them, then you know that they have your best interests at their heart just as you do for them. You can learn more about this aspect by visiting http://www.getdatingtips.com.
To add trust to your relationship, you must first put aside your problems. You must push aside all the times that trust ended up hurting you. Instead, put your trust into your relationship anyway. Even if you are worried that trusting someone will end up hurting you, you still have to give the opportunity to them to prove you wrong. If you are in a relationship where you have given trust and not received trust, then you are in a failing relationship. Unless you commit to trusting each other 100%, you will not succeed in your relationship. And, in the end, if that trust is getting abused and taken advantage of, then, you shouldn’t be in that relationship. If you give, so much your partner give in a relationship.
It is hard to add trust into a relationship that is already damaged. But, it is necessary in the most immediate way. Relationships are built on qualities like trust. If the trust in your relationship is week, chances are good that the relationship will suffer in the long run. If you are constantly questioning or worry about your relationship, then you have no trust in your partner. If you trust in them, then you know that they have your best interests at their heart just as you do for them. You can learn more about this aspect by visiting http://www.getdatingtips.com.
To add trust to your relationship, you must first put aside your problems. You must push aside all the times that trust ended up hurting you. Instead, put your trust into your relationship anyway. Even if you are worried that trusting someone will end up hurting you, you still have to give the opportunity to them to prove you wrong. If you are in a relationship where you have given trust and not received trust, then you are in a failing relationship. Unless you commit to trusting each other 100%, you will not succeed in your relationship. And, in the end, if that trust is getting abused and taken advantage of, then, you shouldn’t be in that relationship. If you give, so much your partner give in a relationship.
Saturday, October 25, 2008
You can Stop the Divorce
It is almost always possible to stop a divorce, unless one partner is abusive.
Of course, sometimes the abuse is verbal. Constant arguing, yelling, bickering, complaining, whining and other types of loud angry talking can really grate on your nerves after a while.
But, you can stop this kind of abuse dead in its tracks. Here are 4 things that you can do today, to improve your relationship.
1) Stop It!
It takes two people to make an argument. So, stop arguing. If you really want to save your marriage, stop pressuring, stop criticizing, stop complaining, stop whining and most importantly stop arguing. Stop defending yourself, as well.
2) You Can Stop a Divorce by Agreeing
Now, if you have been disagreeable for many years, if you played a major role in all of those arguments, it might take a little time to convince your mate that you are willing to agree. Disagreeing causes more negativity, more negative feelings.
Agreeing, on the other hand, creates a positive environment where positive feelings can start to grow again. So, whatever your mate says, find a way to agree with it and put it in positive terms. Agree, sound sincere and then "shut up".
3) You Can Stop a Divorce by "Acting" Happy
If you're separated, pretend that you are happy with the current situation. Enjoy your new space and your freedom, whether you like it or not.
If you're still living together, BE happy. You may have to "pretend" at first, but eventually you will become happier and your happiness will rub off. Don't talk about the problems, whatever they were.
Make small talk. Ask about your partner's day, but stay away from the serious stuff.
4) Do It Your Mate's Way
The bitterness, the resistance and the anger will start to resolve itself, if you stop always trying to get your way and do it their way for a while.
All four of these things can actually be thrown into one category. You are attacking the situation by no longer fighting it. It's kind of a reverse psychology.
Sometimes you get what you want by asking for the opposite.
Once the two of you start agreeing on some things, you may try counseling or read a self-help book and then share the information with your spouse. You can talk with your minister or see a psychologist on your own.
Of course, sometimes the abuse is verbal. Constant arguing, yelling, bickering, complaining, whining and other types of loud angry talking can really grate on your nerves after a while.
But, you can stop this kind of abuse dead in its tracks. Here are 4 things that you can do today, to improve your relationship.
1) Stop It!
It takes two people to make an argument. So, stop arguing. If you really want to save your marriage, stop pressuring, stop criticizing, stop complaining, stop whining and most importantly stop arguing. Stop defending yourself, as well.
2) You Can Stop a Divorce by Agreeing
Now, if you have been disagreeable for many years, if you played a major role in all of those arguments, it might take a little time to convince your mate that you are willing to agree. Disagreeing causes more negativity, more negative feelings.
Agreeing, on the other hand, creates a positive environment where positive feelings can start to grow again. So, whatever your mate says, find a way to agree with it and put it in positive terms. Agree, sound sincere and then "shut up".
3) You Can Stop a Divorce by "Acting" Happy
If you're separated, pretend that you are happy with the current situation. Enjoy your new space and your freedom, whether you like it or not.
If you're still living together, BE happy. You may have to "pretend" at first, but eventually you will become happier and your happiness will rub off. Don't talk about the problems, whatever they were.
Make small talk. Ask about your partner's day, but stay away from the serious stuff.
4) Do It Your Mate's Way
The bitterness, the resistance and the anger will start to resolve itself, if you stop always trying to get your way and do it their way for a while.
All four of these things can actually be thrown into one category. You are attacking the situation by no longer fighting it. It's kind of a reverse psychology.
Sometimes you get what you want by asking for the opposite.
Once the two of you start agreeing on some things, you may try counseling or read a self-help book and then share the information with your spouse. You can talk with your minister or see a psychologist on your own.
Thursday, October 23, 2008
Top 10 Signs of An Abusive Man
Abusive relationships are characterized by control games, violence, jealousy and withholding sex and emotional contact. An emotionally abusive man is harder to pin-point and a skilled, abusive man can easily make you think you aren't good enough or that everything is your fault. It is just as difficult to recover from emotional abuse as it is from physical abuse. Emotional abuse causes low self-esteem and depression. An abusive man may tell you he loves you or that he will change, so you won't leave. However, the more times you take him back, the more control he will gain. Empty promises become the norm. Make sure you pay attention to his actions and not merely his words. As the old saying goes, "actions speak louder than words." Abusive relationships are never abusive in the beginning. If they were, women would dump the abusive men immediately in search of a good man.
According to the American Psychological Association Force on Violence and Family, over 4 million American women experience a serious assault by a partner each year! Who can forget when heavy-weight champ Mike Tyson was convicted of raping Desiree Washington and sentenced to six years in prison. Tyson served three years before being released on parole. Thereafter, he married Robin Givens but they divorced on Valentine's Day only a year later because Givens claimed Tyson abused her. Abusive behavior touches all ranges of society.
We have broken down the top 10 signs of an abusive man. If your partner exhibits one or more of these signs, it may be time to reevaluate your relationship and seek help or get out.
1. Jealousy & Possessiveness -- Becomes jealous over your family, friends, co-workers. Tries to isolate you. Views his woman and children as his property instead of as unique individuals. Accuses you of cheating or flirting with other men without cause. Always asks where you've been and with whom in an accusatory manner.
2. Control -- He is overly demanding of your time and must be the center of your attention. He controls finances, the car, and the activities you partake in. Becomes angry if woman begins showing signs of independence or strength.
3. Superiority -- He is always right, has to win or be in charge. He always justifies his actions so he can be "right" by blaming you or others. A verbally abusive man will talk down to you or call you names in order to make himself feel better. The goal of an abusive man is to make you feel weak so they can feel powerful. Abusers are frequently insecure and this power makes them feel better about themselves.
4. Manipulates -- Tells you you're crazy or stupid so the blame is turned on you. Tries to make you think that it's your fault he is abusive. Says he can't help being abusive so you feel sorry for him and you keep trying to "help" him. Tells others you are unstable.
5. Mood Swings -- His mood switches from aggressive and abusive to apologetic and loving after the abuse has occurred.
6. Actions don't match words -- He breaks promises, says he loves you and then abuses you.
7. Punishes you -- An emotionally abusive man may withhold sex, emotional intimacy, or plays the "silent game" as punishment when he doesn't get his way. He verbally abuses you by frequently criticizing you.
8. Unwilling to seek help -- An abusive man doesn't think there is anything wrong with him so why should he seek help? Does not acknowledge his faults or blames it on his childhood or outside circumstances.
9. Disrespects women -- Shows no respect towards his mother, sisters, or any women in his life. Thinks women are stupid and worthless.
10. Has a history of abusing women and/or animals or was abused himself -- Batterers repeat their patterns and seek out women who are submissive and can be controlled. Abusive behavior can be a generational dysfunction and abused men have a great chance of becoming abusers. Men who abuse animals are much more likely to abuse women also.
If you continue to stay in an abusive relationship because you think he will change and start treating you well, think again. An abusive man does not change without long-term therapy. Group counseling sessions are particularly helpful in helping abusive men recognize their abusive patterns. Type A personality types seem to be more prone to abusive behavior due to their aggressive nature. Drugs and alcohol can create or further escalate an abusive relationship. Alcoholics Anonymous and Narcotics Anonymous are excellent programs for an addict. The abuser's partner should also seek help for their codependent behavior at Codependents Anonymous.
If the abusive man is not willing to seek help, then you must take action by protecting yourself and any children involved by leaving. By staying in an abusive relationship you are condoning it. If you are scared you won't be able to survive because of finances, pick up the phone book and start calling shelters. Try calling family, friends and associates and ask them if they can help or know of ways to help. Once you leave, the abuser may cry and beg for forgiveness but don't go back until you have spoken to his counselor and he has completed long-term therapy successfully. Be prepared for the abuse to increase after you leave because the abuser has lost control. The Bureau of Justice Statistics states that on the average, more than three women are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends every day so please be careful. If you partner is not willing to seek help for his abusive behavior, your only option is to leave
According to the American Psychological Association Force on Violence and Family, over 4 million American women experience a serious assault by a partner each year! Who can forget when heavy-weight champ Mike Tyson was convicted of raping Desiree Washington and sentenced to six years in prison. Tyson served three years before being released on parole. Thereafter, he married Robin Givens but they divorced on Valentine's Day only a year later because Givens claimed Tyson abused her. Abusive behavior touches all ranges of society.
We have broken down the top 10 signs of an abusive man. If your partner exhibits one or more of these signs, it may be time to reevaluate your relationship and seek help or get out.
1. Jealousy & Possessiveness -- Becomes jealous over your family, friends, co-workers. Tries to isolate you. Views his woman and children as his property instead of as unique individuals. Accuses you of cheating or flirting with other men without cause. Always asks where you've been and with whom in an accusatory manner.
2. Control -- He is overly demanding of your time and must be the center of your attention. He controls finances, the car, and the activities you partake in. Becomes angry if woman begins showing signs of independence or strength.
3. Superiority -- He is always right, has to win or be in charge. He always justifies his actions so he can be "right" by blaming you or others. A verbally abusive man will talk down to you or call you names in order to make himself feel better. The goal of an abusive man is to make you feel weak so they can feel powerful. Abusers are frequently insecure and this power makes them feel better about themselves.
4. Manipulates -- Tells you you're crazy or stupid so the blame is turned on you. Tries to make you think that it's your fault he is abusive. Says he can't help being abusive so you feel sorry for him and you keep trying to "help" him. Tells others you are unstable.
5. Mood Swings -- His mood switches from aggressive and abusive to apologetic and loving after the abuse has occurred.
6. Actions don't match words -- He breaks promises, says he loves you and then abuses you.
7. Punishes you -- An emotionally abusive man may withhold sex, emotional intimacy, or plays the "silent game" as punishment when he doesn't get his way. He verbally abuses you by frequently criticizing you.
8. Unwilling to seek help -- An abusive man doesn't think there is anything wrong with him so why should he seek help? Does not acknowledge his faults or blames it on his childhood or outside circumstances.
9. Disrespects women -- Shows no respect towards his mother, sisters, or any women in his life. Thinks women are stupid and worthless.
10. Has a history of abusing women and/or animals or was abused himself -- Batterers repeat their patterns and seek out women who are submissive and can be controlled. Abusive behavior can be a generational dysfunction and abused men have a great chance of becoming abusers. Men who abuse animals are much more likely to abuse women also.
If you continue to stay in an abusive relationship because you think he will change and start treating you well, think again. An abusive man does not change without long-term therapy. Group counseling sessions are particularly helpful in helping abusive men recognize their abusive patterns. Type A personality types seem to be more prone to abusive behavior due to their aggressive nature. Drugs and alcohol can create or further escalate an abusive relationship. Alcoholics Anonymous and Narcotics Anonymous are excellent programs for an addict. The abuser's partner should also seek help for their codependent behavior at Codependents Anonymous.
If the abusive man is not willing to seek help, then you must take action by protecting yourself and any children involved by leaving. By staying in an abusive relationship you are condoning it. If you are scared you won't be able to survive because of finances, pick up the phone book and start calling shelters. Try calling family, friends and associates and ask them if they can help or know of ways to help. Once you leave, the abuser may cry and beg for forgiveness but don't go back until you have spoken to his counselor and he has completed long-term therapy successfully. Be prepared for the abuse to increase after you leave because the abuser has lost control. The Bureau of Justice Statistics states that on the average, more than three women are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends every day so please be careful. If you partner is not willing to seek help for his abusive behavior, your only option is to leave
Dating Advice You Can Use
Dating Advice You Can Use
There are many sources that you can turn to if you are looking for dating advice. The downside with getting dating advice is that you are unsure if you are receiving good advice on dating. Your father may give a few tips to help you, but is he offering useful advice, or is he just excited to have grandchildren? Some people rely more on their friends rather than their parents for some advice on dating. However, this may not be a good idea because what works for your friends may not work for you.
Some people have explored online dating in the hope of meeting someone special. This type of dating used to have an unpleasant reputation, but has recently become more legitimate and socially acceptable. Online dating used to be a guarantee that you will meet a potentially dangerous date. Fortunately, there are now many sane and attractive people that are using online dating to meet their future partners. Most of these dating sites also offer dating advice. If you sign up to a reputable site, you can be sure that the dating tips they offer will be reliable.
Besides online dating sites, there are also other places on the Internet that can offer good advice. There are websites that specialize in helping people find the love of their life, and most of them also offer dating advice. An online search will give you a lot of this type of website. But keep in mind that advice on dating is not one size fits all. If you live in an urban area, advice meant to help you find love at the mall might not work for you, but then again, it might. You may have to take some dating tips and make it fit to your life.
If you are newly divorced and are looking for some dating advice, you should look for sites that can help you catch up on the changes in the dating scene. If you have some friends who have divorced and have successfully reestablished themselves on the dating scene, they may be the best source of advice on dating for you. Whether you rely on your friends or turn to online dating site for advice, remember that the best dating advice is to always be yourself.
There are many sources that you can turn to if you are looking for dating advice. The downside with getting dating advice is that you are unsure if you are receiving good advice on dating. Your father may give a few tips to help you, but is he offering useful advice, or is he just excited to have grandchildren? Some people rely more on their friends rather than their parents for some advice on dating. However, this may not be a good idea because what works for your friends may not work for you.
Some people have explored online dating in the hope of meeting someone special. This type of dating used to have an unpleasant reputation, but has recently become more legitimate and socially acceptable. Online dating used to be a guarantee that you will meet a potentially dangerous date. Fortunately, there are now many sane and attractive people that are using online dating to meet their future partners. Most of these dating sites also offer dating advice. If you sign up to a reputable site, you can be sure that the dating tips they offer will be reliable.
Besides online dating sites, there are also other places on the Internet that can offer good advice. There are websites that specialize in helping people find the love of their life, and most of them also offer dating advice. An online search will give you a lot of this type of website. But keep in mind that advice on dating is not one size fits all. If you live in an urban area, advice meant to help you find love at the mall might not work for you, but then again, it might. You may have to take some dating tips and make it fit to your life.
If you are newly divorced and are looking for some dating advice, you should look for sites that can help you catch up on the changes in the dating scene. If you have some friends who have divorced and have successfully reestablished themselves on the dating scene, they may be the best source of advice on dating for you. Whether you rely on your friends or turn to online dating site for advice, remember that the best dating advice is to always be yourself.
Wednesday, September 10, 2008
HOW TO WIN YOUR EXLOVER BACK
HOW TO WIN YOUR EXLOVER BACK
You have just gone through a break up and is extremely troubled by this question, "How can I get my lover back?" In general, there are four important things that you would want to know. In fact, it seems you can't live without him or her and it is my job to bring your lover back to you, if only you will read this article. First, be aware of what are the things that you should do. By knowing and doing them, it will increase the chances of getting your lover back be aware also of the things that you should not do and make sure you do not do them, There is a lot to be done before you can even settle on a plan to win back your lover This is a time to be very honest with yourself and try recollect what transpired. This could be a losing battle you will be trying to win if you do not fully understand what led up to the break-up.Take some time to self reflect about both of your roles in the relationship. What role did you play into the break-up? Was it over Infidelity? Finance? Physical or emotional abuse? Trust? Come up with a plan on how you are going to win your lover back it will be easy now that you know why your lover left the first place you know how you use to make him or her happy. Communication is very important; don’t say anything negative, don’t talk about the last fight, chat with your exlover as if you’re talking with a new friend. Allow things to move at a natural pace and try to always understand your exlovers' feeling. show a lot of respect to your exlover and don't try being a winer or blaming your exlover, just show love and understanding and you will have your exlover back
You have just gone through a break up and is extremely troubled by this question, "How can I get my lover back?" In general, there are four important things that you would want to know. In fact, it seems you can't live without him or her and it is my job to bring your lover back to you, if only you will read this article. First, be aware of what are the things that you should do. By knowing and doing them, it will increase the chances of getting your lover back be aware also of the things that you should not do and make sure you do not do them, There is a lot to be done before you can even settle on a plan to win back your lover This is a time to be very honest with yourself and try recollect what transpired. This could be a losing battle you will be trying to win if you do not fully understand what led up to the break-up.Take some time to self reflect about both of your roles in the relationship. What role did you play into the break-up? Was it over Infidelity? Finance? Physical or emotional abuse? Trust? Come up with a plan on how you are going to win your lover back it will be easy now that you know why your lover left the first place you know how you use to make him or her happy. Communication is very important; don’t say anything negative, don’t talk about the last fight, chat with your exlover as if you’re talking with a new friend. Allow things to move at a natural pace and try to always understand your exlovers' feeling. show a lot of respect to your exlover and don't try being a winer or blaming your exlover, just show love and understanding and you will have your exlover back
Friday, August 29, 2008
HOW TO MAKE HER BEGGING
HOW TO MAKE HER COME BEGGING
Has it ever happened to you that when you are talking to a girl she ends up saying you are just not my type, I not looking for a boy friend right now or maybe I already have a boy friend. You see she would throw these killer comments at you even when she is single and looking. You see this is her way of telling you to go away before she gets rude. You see but you can turn all this around and make her chase you like crazy. Read on to discover some of the most stunning ways on how this can be done and achieve earth shattering results fast...
Don't take it- The very first trick is not to take it and laugh at it. You see most guys would just get highly sensitive if a girl rejects them right on the face and they walk off and never ever dare to approach another girl ever again. Therefore when she tells you that she is just no looking for anything right now instead of walking off you must say this- "I wasn't looking for anything either, too bad you got the wrong impression, I was just about to tell you that we are not on the same wavelength. You see saying this would mean counter rejection and she would now try to seek approval from you.
Throw it right back on her face- Now this is a total kick ass trick which is known to work most of the times. You see if you are in conversation with a girl and she throws one of these strange comments on your face. You must say hey wait a second- "I wasn't hitting on you rather I am more interested in your friend standing right there". Now this is a strong jealousy tactic where not only would she feel rejected but at the same time she would again seek approval from your end.
What you don't know yet- Ever tried to wonder what's in a woman's mind? What is she thinking about? Do you know that women do not always mean what they say? They might say something and mean the exact opposite. But what do women actually want? Do you know there are some secrets women don't want men to know but you absolutely must know these secrets in order to succeed with women? Read on to discover 9 most "Shocking Secrets" women don't want men to know
Has it ever happened to you that when you are talking to a girl she ends up saying you are just not my type, I not looking for a boy friend right now or maybe I already have a boy friend. You see she would throw these killer comments at you even when she is single and looking. You see this is her way of telling you to go away before she gets rude. You see but you can turn all this around and make her chase you like crazy. Read on to discover some of the most stunning ways on how this can be done and achieve earth shattering results fast...
Don't take it- The very first trick is not to take it and laugh at it. You see most guys would just get highly sensitive if a girl rejects them right on the face and they walk off and never ever dare to approach another girl ever again. Therefore when she tells you that she is just no looking for anything right now instead of walking off you must say this- "I wasn't looking for anything either, too bad you got the wrong impression, I was just about to tell you that we are not on the same wavelength. You see saying this would mean counter rejection and she would now try to seek approval from you.
Throw it right back on her face- Now this is a total kick ass trick which is known to work most of the times. You see if you are in conversation with a girl and she throws one of these strange comments on your face. You must say hey wait a second- "I wasn't hitting on you rather I am more interested in your friend standing right there". Now this is a strong jealousy tactic where not only would she feel rejected but at the same time she would again seek approval from your end.
What you don't know yet- Ever tried to wonder what's in a woman's mind? What is she thinking about? Do you know that women do not always mean what they say? They might say something and mean the exact opposite. But what do women actually want? Do you know there are some secrets women don't want men to know but you absolutely must know these secrets in order to succeed with women? Read on to discover 9 most "Shocking Secrets" women don't want men to know
Tuesday, August 26, 2008
THREE TIPS IN MARRIAGE
THREE TIPS IN MARRIAGE
Marriage relationships can be the most fulfilling life experience you will ever have -- or the worst! You are clearly wise enough to value your relationships and marriage, and to want to make them as special as can be. So what can you do to make your marriage relationships blissful and harmonious, loving, passionate and romantic? Here are 3 tips to keep the sparkle in your relationships and marriage....
1. Relationships as a work of artWhat makes a painting valuable? Usually it's the rarity of the painting (there's only one), and the mastery of the artist. Your marriage relationships are just as rare. Nobody can duplicate exactly your marriage or love relationship. It's unique. And that makes it special. If you add to that the attention and care that you choose to give your partnership, you can see how valuable it really is. Start to appreciate your relationships and marriage more. Reframe the way you look at it. Take time to enjoy it. Luxuriate in what is wonderful about it and be sure to express lots of appreciation to your partner for every little thing. And appreciate yourself too -- you created this -- and you will make it even better!
2. Marriage as a pathway to self developmentMarriage knocks the sharp edges off you and rounds you out as an individual. In the best marriage relationships, both partners strive hard to keep on improving and growing. That way they remain attractive and interesting to one another. Don't settle into a relationship. Life is an adventure in growth and development. Always strive to improve. Look for ways to be more loving. Exercise your creativity to surprise and delight your partner -- we all want to have fun, especially us gals!
3. Marriage relationships as a focus for loveWhen you and I eventually leave this mortal coil, it will be the relationships we formed and the love that we gave and received that will be most meaningful for us. Make LOVE your focus in life and your life will be so very rich. Let your marriage relationships be your major life project, your purpose if you will. Learn to give more and to put more love into your relationships and marriage. See just how far you can go and keep pushing back the borders of your love. What a truly wonderful life you will create. As you focus love in on your primary love relationship, and it flourishes under your touch, you will soon find yourself pouring love into all your relationships with family, friends and the world. Such actions make this world a better place.
Marriage relationships can be the most fulfilling life experience you will ever have -- or the worst! You are clearly wise enough to value your relationships and marriage, and to want to make them as special as can be. So what can you do to make your marriage relationships blissful and harmonious, loving, passionate and romantic? Here are 3 tips to keep the sparkle in your relationships and marriage....
1. Relationships as a work of artWhat makes a painting valuable? Usually it's the rarity of the painting (there's only one), and the mastery of the artist. Your marriage relationships are just as rare. Nobody can duplicate exactly your marriage or love relationship. It's unique. And that makes it special. If you add to that the attention and care that you choose to give your partnership, you can see how valuable it really is. Start to appreciate your relationships and marriage more. Reframe the way you look at it. Take time to enjoy it. Luxuriate in what is wonderful about it and be sure to express lots of appreciation to your partner for every little thing. And appreciate yourself too -- you created this -- and you will make it even better!
2. Marriage as a pathway to self developmentMarriage knocks the sharp edges off you and rounds you out as an individual. In the best marriage relationships, both partners strive hard to keep on improving and growing. That way they remain attractive and interesting to one another. Don't settle into a relationship. Life is an adventure in growth and development. Always strive to improve. Look for ways to be more loving. Exercise your creativity to surprise and delight your partner -- we all want to have fun, especially us gals!
3. Marriage relationships as a focus for loveWhen you and I eventually leave this mortal coil, it will be the relationships we formed and the love that we gave and received that will be most meaningful for us. Make LOVE your focus in life and your life will be so very rich. Let your marriage relationships be your major life project, your purpose if you will. Learn to give more and to put more love into your relationships and marriage. See just how far you can go and keep pushing back the borders of your love. What a truly wonderful life you will create. As you focus love in on your primary love relationship, and it flourishes under your touch, you will soon find yourself pouring love into all your relationships with family, friends and the world. Such actions make this world a better place.
Friday, August 22, 2008
HOW TO KNOW SHE WANTS YOU
Nearly every man has had one simple conversation with their best friend or wingman while they are out at a bar or a club: "Dude, do you think she is flirting with me?". "I don't know man, I think she might be". This conversation is borderline embarrassing for anyone who is trying to pick up on the signals of another. Knowing the answer to "Is she flirting?" can help you to understand who is into you, and who isn't. By following some of these simple tips as a guide, you can help yourself answer that ever important question of "Is she flirting?".
#1- Is She Smiling At You?
Smiling is important, but knowing the type of smile can be even more important when trying to answer the question "is she flirting?". Someone can smile when they are uncomfortable. Someone can smile when they are confused. By knowing the type of smile, you can know if she is flirting. Notice is she is smiling at you. If she is looking right in your eyes and smiling or grinning, you know that you have caught her attention, and in a good way.
#2- Fidgeting is a Good Thing
Some people will think that fidgeting is a sure fire sign that someone is disinterested in them. If a girl is playing with her hair or tapping her foot, you can know the answer to the question of "is she flirting?"
Women, just like men, do things unconsciously. If a woman is twirling her hair around her finger, or is playing with a small strand, you can know that she may be a little nervous, but is flirting none the less.
#3- Did She Come to You First?
This may seem like an obvious way to answer the question of "Is she flirting", but is unfortunately missed by many confused men. If a woman comes up to you to talk to you first, this should be seen as an obvious sign that she is flirting. Women do not step to a guy who they do not want to flirt with. If she walks up to you and strikes up a conversation, you can know that she is flirting with you.
#4- The Final (and Easiest) Sign
There is one sign, above all else, that is an obvious answer to the question of "is she flirting?". If a woman is talking to you, and touches you, you know that you are being flirted with, without question. If you are sitting, and she touches your knee, she is flirting. If you make a joke and she slaps your arm, she is flirting. Woman will not just touch or hit anyone; they only do that to the men that they are interested in and want to flirt with.
There are multiple ways to figure out if a girl is flirting with you or not. By looking at these simple signs, you will be able to tell if that girl you are trying to flirt with is flirting back with you or not.
Nearly every man has had one simple conversation with their best friend or wingman while they are out at a bar or a club: "Dude, do you think she is flirting with me?". "I don't know man, I think she might be". This conversation is borderline embarrassing for anyone who is trying to pick up on the signals of another. Knowing the answer to "Is she flirting?" can help you to understand who is into you, and who isn't. By following some of these simple tips as a guide, you can help yourself answer that ever important question of "Is she flirting?".
#1- Is She Smiling At You?
Smiling is important, but knowing the type of smile can be even more important when trying to answer the question "is she flirting?". Someone can smile when they are uncomfortable. Someone can smile when they are confused. By knowing the type of smile, you can know if she is flirting. Notice is she is smiling at you. If she is looking right in your eyes and smiling or grinning, you know that you have caught her attention, and in a good way.
#2- Fidgeting is a Good Thing
Some people will think that fidgeting is a sure fire sign that someone is disinterested in them. If a girl is playing with her hair or tapping her foot, you can know the answer to the question of "is she flirting?"
Women, just like men, do things unconsciously. If a woman is twirling her hair around her finger, or is playing with a small strand, you can know that she may be a little nervous, but is flirting none the less.
#3- Did She Come to You First?
This may seem like an obvious way to answer the question of "Is she flirting", but is unfortunately missed by many confused men. If a woman comes up to you to talk to you first, this should be seen as an obvious sign that she is flirting. Women do not step to a guy who they do not want to flirt with. If she walks up to you and strikes up a conversation, you can know that she is flirting with you.
#4- The Final (and Easiest) Sign
There is one sign, above all else, that is an obvious answer to the question of "is she flirting?". If a woman is talking to you, and touches you, you know that you are being flirted with, without question. If you are sitting, and she touches your knee, she is flirting. If you make a joke and she slaps your arm, she is flirting. Woman will not just touch or hit anyone; they only do that to the men that they are interested in and want to flirt with.
There are multiple ways to figure out if a girl is flirting with you or not. By looking at these simple signs, you will be able to tell if that girl you are trying to flirt with is flirting back with you or not.
Thursday, August 14, 2008
DATING MISTAKES
DATING MISTAKES YOU CAN AVOID
Dating mistakes can kill a dating relationship. Do you know what dating mistakes you have made? Do dating mistakes hold your relationship back? And, do mistakes like these get forgotten later on? Dating mistakes are simply things that you just don’t do right. To avoid them, though, you have to know what your partner considers a dating mistake.
Open communication is a must and this is often the worst dating mistake you can make. Talk about what you want, need, and expect in your dating relationship. Dating mistakes of this nature often lead to misunderstanding and dating can even end here.
Don’t expect too much, either. Don’t put high standards and expect your dating relationship to survive. Understanding the other person’s need is so important in dating. Don’t underestimate and don’t over estimate your date.
Don’t lie. This dating mistake will leave you out on the street!
Trust your date. If you ever plan to build a relationship, trust must be something you and your date have.
Don’t forget your date’s feelings. The most successful dating relationships are centered on people who always put their date’s feelings ahead of their own.
Dating mistakes can kill a dating relationship. Do you know what dating mistakes you have made? Do dating mistakes hold your relationship back? And, do mistakes like these get forgotten later on? Dating mistakes are simply things that you just don’t do right. To avoid them, though, you have to know what your partner considers a dating mistake.
Open communication is a must and this is often the worst dating mistake you can make. Talk about what you want, need, and expect in your dating relationship. Dating mistakes of this nature often lead to misunderstanding and dating can even end here.
Don’t expect too much, either. Don’t put high standards and expect your dating relationship to survive. Understanding the other person’s need is so important in dating. Don’t underestimate and don’t over estimate your date.
Don’t lie. This dating mistake will leave you out on the street!
Trust your date. If you ever plan to build a relationship, trust must be something you and your date have.
Don’t forget your date’s feelings. The most successful dating relationships are centered on people who always put their date’s feelings ahead of their own.
Saturday, July 26, 2008
WOMEN, MAKE THEM LIKE YOU
YOU CAN MAKE THEM LIKE YOU
Why is it that some guys are extremely effective when it comes to the matter of getting a female to like them while others just struggle? What special aspects do these men have due to which they are able to get any female out there to like them almost instantly. There are some keys which only a few men out there know using which anyone can make any girl to like them almost instantly. Read on to discover what these keys are and achieve earth shattering results extremely fast...
Have an interesting personality- The way you are and the way you behave has a lot to do when it comes to the matter of getting females to like you. You must develop a highly amusing personality which is naturally interesting. If you have something interesting to offer there is absolutely no way girls wouldn't like you.
Learn to make your talks real interesting- Never start a conversation with boring hi and hello and then drag it later. This is the reason why you must start your conversation on a strong note and your first impression should be strong. You should try to talk to her as if you have known her for ages. Doing this would make the conversation flow naturally and you will easily get the desired results.
Make her work- Learn to make her work to keep your attention. Always remember the more a woman has to work to get your attention the more she will think about you and the more she will like you. This is the reason why you should never act too easy to get as that's where all the magic ends.
What you don't know yet- Ever tried to wonder what's in a woman's mind? What is she thinking about? Do you know that women do not always mean what they say? They might say something and mean the exact opposite. But what do women actually want? Do you know there are some secrets women don't want men to know but you absolutely must know these secrets in order to succeed with women? Read on to discover 9 most "Shocking Secrets" women don't want men to know.
Why is it that some guys are extremely effective when it comes to the matter of getting a female to like them while others just struggle? What special aspects do these men have due to which they are able to get any female out there to like them almost instantly. There are some keys which only a few men out there know using which anyone can make any girl to like them almost instantly. Read on to discover what these keys are and achieve earth shattering results extremely fast...
Have an interesting personality- The way you are and the way you behave has a lot to do when it comes to the matter of getting females to like you. You must develop a highly amusing personality which is naturally interesting. If you have something interesting to offer there is absolutely no way girls wouldn't like you.
Learn to make your talks real interesting- Never start a conversation with boring hi and hello and then drag it later. This is the reason why you must start your conversation on a strong note and your first impression should be strong. You should try to talk to her as if you have known her for ages. Doing this would make the conversation flow naturally and you will easily get the desired results.
Make her work- Learn to make her work to keep your attention. Always remember the more a woman has to work to get your attention the more she will think about you and the more she will like you. This is the reason why you should never act too easy to get as that's where all the magic ends.
What you don't know yet- Ever tried to wonder what's in a woman's mind? What is she thinking about? Do you know that women do not always mean what they say? They might say something and mean the exact opposite. But what do women actually want? Do you know there are some secrets women don't want men to know but you absolutely must know these secrets in order to succeed with women? Read on to discover 9 most "Shocking Secrets" women don't want men to know.
YOU CAN WIN HER BACK
HOW TO WIN YOUR GIRLFRIEND BACK
There are secrets to repairing a relationship that has been broken. It is a difficult task to get your girlfriend back. I know the pain you feel, it is horrible. That gut wrenching feeling living deep inside of you that almost hurts. This feeling comes from the fear that you will lose her forever. Well I want to ask you a question today. Why do you have this fear when you don't have to? Why aren't you in control of the break-up? And why does every man let the woman be in control of how the break-up goes?
I'm here today to tell you that you can be the one in control of the break-up. You can determine how things end up. Do you want to know how to win back your girlfriend gillian? Read on...
DONOT SUCK UP
That's right, don't be a kiss ass, please pardon my language, but it's true. When you are a slave to the woman she is not interested in you. You don't come off as a challenge to the woman, and they won't chase you. Men, I know it's hard, but you can't try to achieve every want a woman needs after a break-up. She will see you as a wussy, and woman are not interested in dating wussies. So there's the first secret in how to win back your girlfriend gillian.
Don't Let Her KNOW She's Getting to You
Second secret revealed. It's alright for a woman to make you sad or get to you after a break-up. It's a natural feeling. And at first, you should show concern towards her. Ask her where she thinks you two went wrong. Make her know you care about what has happened. Now, this is where so many men go wrong. They like to do something I call "over-concernate themselves". I know that's a made up word, but it fits their situation perfectly. They show their concern weeks on end, for far to long. You need to show a little concern at first, or she'll never consider you again, but too much just makes you look weak again. And like I've already stated, women do not like weak men. Follow this rule, and you'll see it's so easy to learn how to win back your girlfriend gillian!
Last Rule: Act Like You've Moved On
I know it may be extremely hard to move on, and in our situations, we don't necessarily want to move on; you are trying to learn how to win back your girlfriend gillian. But here's another little secret, while we don't want to move on, neither do the women, and one thing they hate is seeing you move on. So what are we gonna' do? We are gonna' fake the move on. Like previously stated, we don't want to move on, we just need to trick our ex into thinking we have moved on. There are many ways to do this which can involved dating other women, or even flirting with other women. Here's a hint, DO NOT flirt with your ex. She'll still think your interested in her, and that's all she wants. You will have just killed the challenge for her if you do that. Stick to the rules if you wanna learn how to win back your girlfriend.
Those three tactics combined will give you a cutting edge weapon in the fight to win back your girlfriend
There are secrets to repairing a relationship that has been broken. It is a difficult task to get your girlfriend back. I know the pain you feel, it is horrible. That gut wrenching feeling living deep inside of you that almost hurts. This feeling comes from the fear that you will lose her forever. Well I want to ask you a question today. Why do you have this fear when you don't have to? Why aren't you in control of the break-up? And why does every man let the woman be in control of how the break-up goes?
I'm here today to tell you that you can be the one in control of the break-up. You can determine how things end up. Do you want to know how to win back your girlfriend gillian? Read on...
DONOT SUCK UP
That's right, don't be a kiss ass, please pardon my language, but it's true. When you are a slave to the woman she is not interested in you. You don't come off as a challenge to the woman, and they won't chase you. Men, I know it's hard, but you can't try to achieve every want a woman needs after a break-up. She will see you as a wussy, and woman are not interested in dating wussies. So there's the first secret in how to win back your girlfriend gillian.
Don't Let Her KNOW She's Getting to You
Second secret revealed. It's alright for a woman to make you sad or get to you after a break-up. It's a natural feeling. And at first, you should show concern towards her. Ask her where she thinks you two went wrong. Make her know you care about what has happened. Now, this is where so many men go wrong. They like to do something I call "over-concernate themselves". I know that's a made up word, but it fits their situation perfectly. They show their concern weeks on end, for far to long. You need to show a little concern at first, or she'll never consider you again, but too much just makes you look weak again. And like I've already stated, women do not like weak men. Follow this rule, and you'll see it's so easy to learn how to win back your girlfriend gillian!
Last Rule: Act Like You've Moved On
I know it may be extremely hard to move on, and in our situations, we don't necessarily want to move on; you are trying to learn how to win back your girlfriend gillian. But here's another little secret, while we don't want to move on, neither do the women, and one thing they hate is seeing you move on. So what are we gonna' do? We are gonna' fake the move on. Like previously stated, we don't want to move on, we just need to trick our ex into thinking we have moved on. There are many ways to do this which can involved dating other women, or even flirting with other women. Here's a hint, DO NOT flirt with your ex. She'll still think your interested in her, and that's all she wants. You will have just killed the challenge for her if you do that. Stick to the rules if you wanna learn how to win back your girlfriend.
Those three tactics combined will give you a cutting edge weapon in the fight to win back your girlfriend
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