You can Stop the Divorce

It is almost always possible to stop a divorce, unless one partner is abusive.
Of course, sometimes the abuse is verbal. Constant arguing, yelling, bickering, complaining, whining and other types of loud angry talking can really grate on your nerves after a while.
But, you can stop this kind of abuse dead in its tracks. Here are 4 things that you can do today, to improve your relationship.
1) Stop It!
It takes two people to make an argument. So, stop arguing. If you really want to save your marriage, stop pressuring, stop criticizing, stop complaining, stop whining and most importantly stop arguing. Stop defending yourself, as well.
2) You Can Stop a Divorce by Agreeing
Now, if you have been disagreeable for many years, if you played a major role in all of those arguments, it might take a little time to convince your mate that you are willing to agree. Disagreeing causes more negativity, more negative feelings.
Agreeing, on the other hand, creates a positive environment where positive feelings can start to grow again. So, whatever your mate says, find a way to agree with it and put it in positive terms. Agree, sound sincere and then "shut up".
3) You Can Stop a Divorce by "Acting" Happy
If you're separated, pretend that you are happy with the current situation. Enjoy your new space and your freedom, whether you like it or not.
If you're still living together, BE happy. You may have to "pretend" at first, but eventually you will become happier and your happiness will rub off. Don't talk about the problems, whatever they were.
Make small talk. Ask about your partner's day, but stay away from the serious stuff.
4) Do It Your Mate's Way
The bitterness, the resistance and the anger will start to resolve itself, if you stop always trying to get your way and do it their way for a while.
All four of these things can actually be thrown into one category. You are attacking the situation by no longer fighting it. It's kind of a reverse psychology.
Sometimes you get what you want by asking for the opposite.
Once the two of you start agreeing on some things, you may try counseling or read a self-help book and then share the information with your spouse. You can talk with your minister or see a psychologist on your own.